10 Sentences You Would Never Hear From Your Best Friends

There is a common perception that your best friend can say anything to you, but this is not true. Your BFF would not use a close relationship with you as an opportunity to insult you. There are certain times when seemingly simple statements have stung and were derogatory enough to elicit a different expectation than expected. A true friend does not want to hurt you, even if unintentionally. Here are ten sentences you would never hear from your best friend. More below..

1. “You seem to have lost some weight”
Weight is a dirty word. Perhaps your friend is
trying to offer you a compliment – yet the
statement can be confused as an insult. Do
they know if you are losing weight because of
depression? Maybe they thought you could
not lose any weight and now they are
suggesting that you have always been
overweight. Rather than express their concern
in such an accusatory way your best friend
should say, “I’ve noticed you’re looking
thinner lately. Is something going on that you
want to talk about?”

2. “Are you sure you’re good enough?”
Your best friend should never doubt your
capabilities. He/she should be supportive of
every goal you pursue. Instead of doubting
your abilities your best friend should say, “I
bet you can pull it off.”

3. “You cannot be right”
By saying this your best friend is implying
that you are untrustworthy and casting doubt
over your intelligence. A more tactful sentence
like, “my understanding is that…” would help
offer a clearer picture of what you are saying
and make sure you are working on the same
assumptions.

4. “Good luck”
The implication of this statement is that
whatever you do requires luck and nothing you
do will make it succeed. It is also bad luck to
wish good luck. Instead of attributing your
accomplishments to luck, your friend should
offer encouragement: “Offer them something
they’ll never forget!”

5. “I wish you didn’t have to…”
Your best friend should motivate and help you
to take action and change your situation. This
sounds like moaning, and I bet you don’t like
to be groaned at! Your best friend should not
discourage your attempt to improve a
situation. Rather, your friend should say, “We
have to do something about this”

6. “It could have been worse.”
Your best friend may be falling into use of a
common phrase without thinking. Saying such
a phrase will only imply something negative
or pessimistic. It would be better to be honest
and positive enough to say, “It will get better.”

7. “It can never…”
The word “never” puts a restriction on your
life and doesn’t present us with an accurate
reflection of the choices that still remain
available to us. Your best friend should not
close his/her mind to available options and
should remove words like “never” from their
vocabulary. Rather a phrase like, “I feel we
can…” can prove more positive.

8. “Don’t worry. It will be fine”
Even when your friend seems worried for a
good reason, the phrase “don’t worry” is
dismissive. Your friend should offer his/her
judgment based on the situation. Using action
to back up a statement like, “I’m here if you
need me,” will go a long way to prove that
they are willing to help through a rough time.

9. “I told you so”
This implies you are not paying attention or
you are not listening to them. It could also
imply that they are more prescient and wiser
than you. Your best friend should understand
that friendship with you is not a competition.
There is no need to keep tabs on who is right
or wrong. Rather they should say, “Let us fix
this.” A good friend will show they are willing
to help you out and not add salt to the
wound.

10. “I don’t really care.”
Your friend may be emotionally charged but
they should never tell you he/she doesn’t
really care. Your best friend is meant to be
concerned about your challenges and
difficulties. Your best friend cannot say they
don’t care, rather they should say, “I am here
for you.”

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